{"id":809,"date":"2019-02-06T06:00:51","date_gmt":"2019-02-06T13:00:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.executivecraft.com\/?p=809"},"modified":"2019-06-10T22:57:00","modified_gmt":"2019-06-11T05:57:00","slug":"improve-emotional-intelligence-attachment-styles-adult-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.executivecraft.com\/ru\/improve-emotional-intelligence-attachment-styles-adult-relationships\/","title":{"rendered":"Improve Emotional Intelligence \u2013 Attachment Styles & Adult Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"Two of the most critical questions to ask, and answer, when you are working to improve emotional intelligence are:<\/p>\n
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  1. How do you, as an adult, form relationships, whether personal or professional?<\/strong><\/li>\n
  2. Why do you choose to form your relationships in the way that you do?<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    These questions are obviously important yet, they presuppose that there is a cause behind your\"attachment<\/a> relationship-building efforts; something which is likely to be subconscious, despite your best efforts to be mindful of the ways in which you interact with others. This subconscious influence has become known as \u201cattachment style\u201d and, while it may not be part of mainstream thinking or relationship coaching yet, in the world of contemporary psychology, it is widely understood to be the foundation of how human relationships are built.<\/p>\n

    Perhaps since the dawn of existence, human beings in general, and researchers in particular, have explored the organization and the stability of mental working models that underlie human relationships. Beginning with British psychologist John Bowlby in the 1930s, researchers have gone on to explore and identify attachment patterns, and the ways in which attachment impacts relationship outcomes and how attachment functions in relationship dynamics.<\/p>\n

    While Bowlby\u2019s research was focused on child development, beginning in the 1980s, research into attachment theory was extended to adult relationships.<\/p>\n

    How Attachment Styles Affect Relationships<\/strong><\/h4>\n

    For the sake of this blog post, and the series to follow, we will begin with a look at how attachment styles affect adult relationships, as well as their influence on emotional intelligence in the workplace.<\/p>\n

    Stated as simply as possible: Attachment theory is a psychological model which describes the dynamics of interpersonal relationships between humans.<\/p>\n

    Or, your relationship patterns are the result of your attachment patterns.<\/p>\n

    In other words, your patterns of attachment to others are deeply held and powerfully influential on the types of relationships you develop though your life. These patterns begin early in life and you tend to reinforce them over time in an unending style of attachment that will not change without training (or therapy perhaps, if you repeatedly find yourself in harmful relationships).<\/p>\n

    Four main styles of attachment have been identified in adults:<\/p>\n